Have you been falsely accused of rape, another serious sexual offence or domestic violence? Have you been ‘framed’ by a malicious lie? Or has this happened to someone you love or care about? If so, then you are a victim of one of the growing social injustices of our time.
accused.me.uk is a support site set up by people who’ve been through the same hell as you. We also campaign to improve the investigation and detection of sexual crimes in the UK.
If you need direct and personal contact now, join our private Facebook Group. Here, you can meet 1,000 of us who will understand what you’re going through. Try our links pages to reach other sites or groups.
Enquiries from journalists or media should be directed to the email address on our contact pages. We are keen that our stories are told.
accused.me.uk supports anyone who has been deliberately framed, for as long as they maintain their innocence. This site is not for people who were unclear about sexual consent. See guidance on this from the Family Planning Association and the Crown Prosecution Service. Alternatively, there’s a great video here. After seeing that, if you think you might guilty, then please tell the police as soon as your solicitor says you should, and spare your accuser from having to give evidence against you in court.
accused.me.uk has a small amount of information that may assist through the difficult months ahead, when you are the subject of a police investigation into the most sensitive parts of your life. A life where the innocent party in this allegation is you, and the guilty party is the one who is trying to frame you.
accused.me.uk also campaigns for changes to UK law affecting people who are accused of sexual offences. We believe that people accused of sexual offences should be afforded lifelong anonymity in the press and social media unless proven guilty – like complainants about these the offences are. There should be far more prosecutions of the hundreds and possibly thousands of false sexual allegations that are deliberately and maliciously made against innocent people each year. The failure to prosecute these liars not only ruins the lives of innocent people, it undermines the credibility of all of the true allegations of rape.
We aim increase awareness of the devastation that a false allegation can bring. The Telegraph recently published some of the injustices that our members have suffered, and the impact that this has had on them.
Please note, that in no part of this site, or in any of our support to you, are we able to offer legal advice. For that, you need to find a criminal solicitor.
Allegations of rape and sexual assault are almost the only area of English law where a prosecution can take place in the absence of any physical evidence. The testimony of an accuser may be all that is required to secure conviction. If you’ve been involved with someone who’s a good actor before the police, then brace yourself. This situation is responsible for many thousands of false allegations of a sexual nature.
“In the morning was a blameless man, supporting my children, my wife and a mortgage. By the evening, I was in a police cell, under arrest, facing the possibility of imprisonment and financial ruin. All of this, because of a lie. A disgusting lie told by a woman who wanted revenge. My only crime was to have left her violence and abuse towards me, and this was her final act. It was only after about a year, and with the help of my new wife, friends and family that I lived to see the police investigation conclude, and be told that there was no case to answer. I’m still amazed by the ability of a malicious individual to walk into a police station and start making up stories about me with complete anonymity. Hers was the only crime.”
Since the Jimmy Savile crimes came to public awareness, Police are increasingly alerted to allegations of a sexual nature. If you have recently been contacted by the police or social services, there are several things you should do now before you speak with them. If you have already spoken with them, there are things that you need to know that lie ahead of you. Click here to find our check-list.
If you find yourself on trial for something you absolutely haven’t done, then brace yourself. Just know that we’ve been there too.
“It is not just about how I felt at the time, it is how I still feel. I feel as though I have been assaulted by a monster whilst all the people in that court room sat and watched it all go on before their very eyes in some warped sadistic way. Even though I was found not guilty, I still feel tormented, abused, tarnished, shamed and alienated. I could have very easily been made an outcast. You cannot understand how someone feels after this. My family had to live this as well. It hurts so much to see someone not only do this to me but also to my family and get away with it…”
About 1 in 10 of men who are accused of rape is currently put on trial. If you’re innocent, it is probably a little less likely than this, depending on how devious the person who’s framed you has been. And of those of us who are put on trial, wrongful convictions are also rare. So that fact that you’ve been arrested despite being innocent does not mean it’s the end of the world, although it will probably feel like it. Unfortunately, this is the process you’re in now, and we suggest that you just let the police do whatever they have to do whilst trying to live your life as best as you can.
Looking after your mental health
A false allegation may leave you feeling very distressed or even suicidal as a result of having your life upended. It can seem as if the whole forces of the state have lined themselves in your direction whilst supporting a vicious person’s attempts to frame you. Some people loose night after night of sleep worrying about what they can do to defend themselves. Others are unable to carry on working. And a small number of us have killed themselves. Make sure you’re not one of them, so look after your mental health whilst you’re going through this.
Most people will feel gut-wrenching fear and anxiety with what will often be their first contact with the police. Doubly so if you know you’ve been falsely accused. Relatives likewise – if you care for someone, you may well experience all the same worries. That is a normal response to what you have been through. However it can become pathological. If your feelings of anxiety become out of control, or are present all the time, that can mean you should seek some help.
If you think you’re depressed then you probably are. Go and see your GP. If you don’t know whether you’re depressed then follow this link to the NHS’s advice about the tell-tale signs and how to treat it. Tell your GP what’s happened to you. They may well be able to prescribe some medication to help you cope until it’s blown over: treatment of short-term anxiety, sleeplessness and depression is simple, it’s effective and it may well prevent you from harming yourself and feeling overwhelmed by the injustice of what you’re going through.
Unless you give your doctor reason to believe that you have committed a criminal offence, they must not volunteer information you tell them. You should be aware however that in a case as serious as this, your medical notes are potentially disclosable to the police investigation if they can make a case that it is in the public interest to do so.